Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Wedding Wednesday: Calling Former Brides!

On this Wedding Wednesday, I'm keeping things SHORT & SWEET.

I'm calling all ladies who have walked the bridal path before me...give me all the advice you have!

Obviously you adore your wedding day, but if there was ONE piece of advice you wish you had known before your wedding day, what would it be?

I know things will never be "perfect" in some of the tiny details, but that I am going to love the day no matter what. I will take ANY & ALL tips on either how to make the day run smoothly, how to feel calm & relaxed, or things to remember!

P.S- I am almost to the MONTH countdown and I have reached a new level of stress/panic (hence the lack of posting on here). Looks like I need to go back & read my old post about chilling out :) 

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  1. Yup. Sounds like me at almost a month to go before my wedding. My biggest piece of advice is to just enjoy this time. Enjoy your day. All eyes are on you, you are in the spotlight... this is going to be the best time of your life! You will love every second of it! So, just wallow in all this excitement. Just be excited! (That is probably my biggest regret... that I wasn't enjoying every moment... I let stress take over. I wish I hadn't!)

  2. Deep Breathes. Its only ONE day... and it will fly by! So savor the special moments. Close your eyes and make a point of remembering how you feel at that moment. Also, prep an "Anything Could Happen" Bag. Literally have the solution to anything that could go wrong in that bag. Safety pins, extra make up, deodorant, bobby pins, hairspray, instant stain remover and chalk (chalk works to hide spots in the dress for photos if needed), just to name a few. Make one of your bridesmaids or a trusted family member responsible to take that bag EVERYWHERE! It will come in handy!

  3. The month before my wedding, I was a total nut. Not only was I the primary planner/organizer of all wedding details, I was also working on my dissertation which I defended five days prior to our nuptials. Needless to say, I was running at a high level of anxiety. I flew home from CA to the east coast the night after my defense. On that drive to the airport, I remember holding my hubby’s hand and feeling tearful from emotional/physical exhaustion but also intense excitement! I closed my eyes and made a concerted decision to enjoy and just take it all in. If you can, pick a time point to draw the line in the sand and say to yourself, "From here on out, I'm going to enjoy it and be calm." I knew I had great support in my man, family and vendors. I’m such a spaz and I couldn’t believe I pulled it off! I was bizarrely calm and go-with-the-flow. I really enjoyed sleeping in and taking a bath with one of those special fizzy balls.

    My husband (who is always the calm one) was actually nervous about the rain shower that blew in an hour before our outdoor ceremony. I remember pulling up to our ceremony venue and seeing that that the ceremony benches had been covered with tarps. It was the perfect reminder that I had good people taking care of these things and I didn’t need to sweat the small stuff. Of course, the rain blew right by and cooled off our hot August day and left behind the most picturesque white fluffy clouds. Deep breathes and consistent reminders that when you marry the right person, all the rest is just details. Accept the things you cannot change (like weather) and turn to the right people when you need help!

    1. Hey Flannery!! I tried sending an email, but that didn't work! I hope you see this!

      Thank you so much for all the great advice. I definitely need to pick a point in time to just stop the stress and enjoy the process. such good outlook and I definitely think I need to accept the things I can't change and reach out for help :) I'm glad you had such a wonderful wedding experience and that you were able to be such a calm & cool bride! My fingers are crossed I can take a page from your book!

  4. I am going to respond to you more about this in email but I have 2 big pieces of advice to share:

    1) GET A VIDEOGRAPHER!!!! Doesn't have to be a professional but just make sure someone captures parts of your wedding on video and not just still images. I deeply regret this and you can't do anything about it after the fact.

    2) TAKE IT ALL IN! My wedding coordinator suggested I pause when I am at the beginning of the aisle and just take a short moment to look at everything. Look at the people there, all of the decorations, the future husband. Just create an image in your head and it will stay there forever. It totally worked because your wedding day will be over in a flash and you will be wondering how if don't soak it all up.

    Gonna send more wives your way!

    XO Samantha

  5. YAY! Congrats! Can't wait to see pictures!!!

    I will try and keep this short and sweet and since you're only a month away, I don't want to overload you! :)

    1. What Samantha said, only they're expensive so if nothing else just get your friend to capture the ceremony on her iphone...that's the most important part :)
    2. Yes like Samantha said again, I feel I rushed through too much, your'e so stinkin excited that you just want to experience and make sure it all goes through as you saw in your mind and that's great but take a deep breath and just look around sometimes. :) It's necessary.
    3. Enjoy it!!!, basically 2
    4. Yeah just eat a good breakfast and don't eat lunch with your dress on, you'll be too much into excited mode to eat after that...learned that one the hard way.
    5. Stick with your new husband the whole night...your guests want to see both of you! So don't part ways to see everyone :)

  6. What Samantha said is important--and you might want to spring for a professional. We had a family member record our wedding--and it was completely awful. My parents didn't get to come to the wedding, and my Mom was so looking forward to the video, but when she saw it, she cried because she was so disappointed.

    Also, if at all possible--try to relax or pay attention to the little moments. I can't remember hardly anything about our wedding day--I never have been able to, even just shortly after we got married, and I think it's because I was running on high levels of stress and adrenaline. Probably being more relaxed would have helped me actually have memories--but since I don't, I'm sure glad we got a good photographer.